Will you ask your child to lie about his age?


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My son, aged 11 and a half, has started a blog called Ben Williams’s World on WordPress recently.

He started as he wanted to share his passion of a roleplaying game called D&D (thanks to his father’s influence.)

To write a blog, you need an Email account. However, you need to be 13 years old to have a gmail account.

We decided he should use his father’s email account. The problem is, Hugh is getting too many emails from WordPress and he starts to complain.

Would you ask your child to lie about his age (so that he can have an email account, for example)?

As a half decent parent, I don’t like to tell Ben to lie about his age. However, I made a mistake just the other week.

We normally swim in a private swimming pool, but one day the main pool was crowded with holidaymakers. They did nothing resembling exercise, but they were blogging lanes and did silly things like playing in the middle of the pool. These lane hogs irritated me.

The only single lane reserved for adults was free. I moved over and asked Ben to join me. He answered without hesitation, ‘Mum, NO, that’s an adult lane. I SHOULDN’T BREAK THE RULE. See, here’s the sign!’ I was, quite rightly, embarrassed and corrected by a rather sensible kid.

This child clearly has a sense of Right or Wrong and he doesn’t want to break rules.

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20 thoughts on “Will you ask your child to lie about his age?

  1. 《英国琐记》

    Reblogged this on 英国琐记 and commented:
    可是,谷歌规定,申请者需满 13 岁。
    我有个问题:孩子未满13岁,想要有个 Email Account, 你教孩子撒谎吗?

  2. gigiwellness28

    Kids copy their parents and parents want the best upbringing for their kids, so my answer is NO. Don’t even introduce “white lie” to this young soul, because lies are lies, no black or white.

    With the last sentence of your post, I would say, “You & your husband have done well! Keep it up!”

    1. Janet Williams Post author

      Thank you. My son is nearly 12, and he hasn’t got any account in his name, as we stuck with the rule that he shouldn’t lie about his age. He doesn’t need an email account anyway. He’s just happy doodling. I like your points.

      1. gigiwellness28

        What I had done when our kids were younger and blogging was not as popular as now, I created separate email accounts for them and “kept” the password until they really needed an email account – so it’s kind of under supervision.

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  13. Hari Qhuang

    Everybody lies about their children’s age in my hometown.
    When parents buy tickets for their children, they want them to look as young as possible so that they only pay half of the original price.
    When they need to go to places where one has to be tall enough to enter, they’ll give their kids thick shoes and dress their kids to look more mature.
    The one thing that really bothers me is the fact that some parents are crazy enough to ask their kids to buy them their cigarettes and alcohols. I know it is not my business but… it just doesn’t feel right!

    1. Janet Williams Post author

      Asking kids to buy alcohol and cigarettes? These parents really need to be educated. Why are these parents so unaware of the potential message that they send to their kids? Is there any regulations in Indonesia that protect children from buying cigarettes and alcohols? In the UK, these are the rules: Alcohol and young people – the law.

      It is very tempting to lie about the age of the kids, if that helps to get things cheaper.

      I can imagine the scenes you mentioned — kids acting young or old when convenience. Why don’t you turn these comical scenes into stories?

      Thank you, Hari, for our lively conversations.

      1. Hari Qhuang

        As much as it pains me to admit it, children doing “adult” thing is not something uncommon in Indonesia. They work, they sell things in the market, they buy “adult” things, etc.
        There are rules but nobody really obeys it. Even the people with authorities tend to “close one eye” on this matter.
        There are already so many articles and comic arts bringing up this subject in the newspaper and magazine.
        I’ll post about it if I can think of a way to write about it in a fresh & original way. 😀

      2. Janet Williams Post author

        Hi Hari,

        Actually when I was a small child, I was also sent out to buy cigarettes and alcohol too. For alcohol, if we returned the bottles (making another trip), we could take back a few more cents for recycling the bottles back to the shop. In some social circles, kids are used this way to help and ‘obey’ their parents. Some parents really need to be educated. I look forward to your stories. You’re so good at sharing stories and getting me to know Indonesia a bit more. Thank you.

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