What would you do for a friend’s friend?

The first morning in Tilly’s house, she had some visitors.

Alison came to visit with a huge cheese cake. Tilly said, “Alison has just made this for you.”

Alison is Tilly’s friend. Because I’m Tilly’s friend, Alison made this cake for her friend’s friend.

How sweet was that? I instantly felt in love with the people from Stockport.

Not long afterwards, another friend Pam knocked on the door. Again, Pam came to see me because I’m Tilly’s friend.

It was such a wonderful world.

Tilly Bud and Janet -- our first photo together

Tilly Bud and Janet in Stockport — our first photo together. Tilly was holding a dog poo bag in her hand.

Tilly can “phone a friend” easily. She can phone many friends.

I’m old enough to know that it’s unwise stereotyping people, but I must say the few northerners that I was lucky enough to have met were very warm, funny and kind.

Do I have a friend who would spend her own money, make a fuss and make a large cheese cake for my visiting friends? Probably not. Because I’m just not as nice as Tilly. I don’t have a friend like Alison.

I’d have to bake one (if I could manage) or buy one from the shop.

Before I left, Tilly forwarded me an email from Pam.

“Next time, I will take them to the Trafford Centre! I had hoped to do that last night (which is why I asked what time you had your evening meal) but I didn’t feel well so wasn’t up to the drive. Maybe next time!”

Pam had thought about Tilly’s friends and wanted to help entertain us.

It reminds me of a more traditional way of life. The bond with neighbours and friends were closer. Barriers were low. Friends helped out each other more directly. Friends just popped in. The community spirit was stronger.

It seems that in the north, at least in Tilly’s world, it’s surrounded by warmth, friendship and kindness.

Because Tilly’s a magnet. She’s just so nice. It’s impossible not to love her. And her lucky friend got the cheese cake.

I really envy her.

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22 thoughts on “What would you do for a friend’s friend?

    1. Janet Williams Post author

      Yes — warm and genuinely nice. I’m very lucky. WordPress has made a wonderful connection. I got to meet Tilly and had the best cheese cake in the world.

    1. Janet Williams Post author

      Friendship takes such a long time to mature. Perhaps one day we’ll have a friend like this.

      Or perhaps Tilly is just the kind of person who attracts kindness around her. What have others seen in her?

  1. gigiwellness28

    Traditional way of life vs the modern life style are definitely different, sometimes they’re caused by the busy life styles and sometimes personalities as well.

    For example our 2 next door neighbours, 1 asked us to feed their cat & collect their mails the very next day we moved in (very brave of them) and the friendship started to form after they came back from their trip till now (over 10 years); the other neighbour invited us for a cuppa several months after we moved in, I would say we are more of those “Hi & Bye” neighbours, unfortunately, barriers are there even now…

    1. Janet Williams Post author

      It’s not easy. We have lovely neighbours, and we are often asked to feed our neighbours’ cats and lizards. We all help out and it’s a lovely neighbourhood.

      However, I still think there’s a distinction between friend/neighbour who helps feed your cat (because they can’t really say no, can they?), and the kind of friend who makes her friend’s friend a gorgeous homemade cheese cake.

  2. JoV

    I live in Manchester for 2.5 years and then came down South. I think Southerners are just as nice and can be nicer than the Northern counterpart. 🙂

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